Re-claim Your Ex-Husbands Heart

Win Back Your Ex-Husband

What man hasn't forgot to put the toilet seat down every now and then? Thats certainly no reason to flush the entire relationship!. After taking some time to experience the quality of the other "fish in the sea", you've decided that your ex-husband wasn't so bad after all. So your next step is to win back your ex-husband.

First of all, you have to deal with the causes of the break-up. Who was responsible for the actions that led to the divorce or separation, you or him? If he was to blame you must have already come to terms with the situation, or you wouldn't be wanting him back.
If your actions were responsible, how readily will he forgive you? What kind of marriage did you have before the events that led to the split? What are the best things you and he shared in your marriage? Will you both be able to look past the low points?
Has enough water passed under the bridge to enable healing to occur if there were any sins that may have occurred? Time, as the saying goes, does heal all wounds.

And don't forget, if the two of you brought children into your life, they must be at the forefront of any decisions that you make. If they would like their father back in the home you shared together, then you might enlist their assistance if they are old enough to understand.

Just be careful if and when you involve the children as your efforts could backfire if your ex feels you are using the kids to influence him.

If you are on speaking terms why not try to arrange a get together in a nice quiet place where you and the ex can meet without feeling threatened in any way.. You might try choosing a place that triggers pleasant memories for both of you.
If he questions your motivations for wanting to get together, position it as a meeting of importance for the entire family .. A meeting that cannot be best served by a telephone conversation.

Be sure you know exactly what you want to say.. Make an outline as if you were making a business presentation. The reality of the matter is that this meeting is actually more important than any business meeting you'll ever attend.. Practice what you want to say and learn your lines, but don't be too stilted when you speak to him.

Be sure that you can verbalize a list of reasons why you feel it is beneficial for both of you to get back together.. You may ask for a trial period, or just to start dating. If he was to blame for the divorce be sure to communicate your unconditional forgiveness. If you were to blame be sure to offer your sincerest apologies and ask for forgiveness.
If he accepts your request for a meeting you've taken a huge first step towards reconciliation. This is a sign that he harbors no serious resentments towards you and is willing to consider your best interest. If he was very resentful over the divorce, he might not agree to meet at all.
Be sure not to do, or say anything that may make it seem that you are begging, pleading or otherwise trying to take advantage of his good nature.. This is a huge turn-off to most people and would probably make it even harder for you to connect with your former husband.If the meeting doesn't work or isn't possible, you should see if you can have a third party intervene. A religious figure such as a priest, pastor, rabbi, etc whould be the obvious place to start.. If you are not a religious couple, try to involve a mutual friend or family member, and ask them to speak for you.
His relatives are also a possible source you can use to reconnect with your ex-husband. Don't hesitate to ask them for help if you need it.
The bottom line is to be creative in your approach while at the same time being genuine in your reasons for wanting to reconcile.